Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona: 42. Time Management Skills For a Successful Marriage: How He Does it with Six Kids! with Dr. Phil Boucher

42. Time Management Skills For a Successful Marriage: How He Does it with Six Kids! with Dr. Phil Boucher

Jun 28, 2021

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine:

How he is able to produce content and work on courses/videos in between seeing his pediatric patients
Why he implemented templates and hired a scribe when the practice he joined had never had one before

Marriage:

Why he fell in Love during Summer Camp
How he teaches his children the importance of couple time
How he and his wife make time for each other with 5 (now 6) children

Money:

How focusing on values decreases financial disagreements
Why he has Sunday night meetings with his wife

Time Management:

How his morning routine helps his wife and children begin their day
The importance of finding help to repurpose content
How 2.5 minutes of shopping online saves him 2.5 hours in the actual store
How he does bedtime with 5 (now 6) children

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR PHIL BOUCHER

Know when to place the needs of your spouse or children above your own and when to prioritize your own self care. This is an important distinction that often does not come naturally. We learn as we go. How do I want to make my families’ life better in this situation? Another good question to ask yourself at the moment I will borrow from my dear friends Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who recently came to speak with my Women Physicians coaching group. She offers to ask ourselves, what does everyone in this family need right now, including me?
1. Example: Dinner, TV, bedtime, alone time, reconnection time
2. When I am overwhelmed, angry, and victimize myself, I have learned that all I need is often 10-15 minutes to reset...take a shower, think about why I am really feeling the way I feel and a moment to take ownership for my feelings instead of blaming them on someone else.
Do not wait for someone else to make your life more efficient. If you crave efficiency and you notice wasted time at work, suggest a solution. Remember not to focus on the problem as in any negotiation. Present two best options to your group. If neither option is adopted, create one for yourself. Templates...a scribe, get creative, find alternative methods. This won’t happen overnight.
1. Make a list of your shared values
2. Family Time
3. Home
4. Experiences
5. Material Items
6. Charity
7. Notice if your shared values support increased spending habits...if so figure out how to increase your salary.
8. Evaluate what your variables can be shifted in your home to help align
9. What variables can I shift to support my spending habits?
Create shared values with your spouse.
1. A Dream Home
2. The Headboard
3. The Luxury Car
Examples: Time with family on weekends, annual couple only vacations, Grandparents

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

Do I have a good balance between self care and self sacrifice?
What can I delegate in my life?
How can my spouse and I create more shared visions?
Do my values support my spending habits?

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Podcast: Raising Good Parents and High Yield Physicians
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