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Oct 18, 2021

Medicine, Marriage, and Money Group Coaching for women physicians who want to learn how to fight LESS, love MORE, and invest SMARTER is now closed for enrollment!

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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

 

Medicine: 

  • Working in an underserved community in Houston
  • Working alongside her sister, a 9 month age difference! 
  • Transferring from Texas Tech to Baylor in Houston
  • Married the first semester in medical school
  • What it was like to do a residency with her sister 



Marriage: 

  • Why she married her complete opposite 
  • How they met
  • How he asked permission to date her (respectful to Iranian culture)
  • Why she fell in love with his calm & mature presence
  • Having independent space and coming together with things they have in common
  • How do you want to feel and who do you want to be



Children

  • Why she starting fighting with her child from 2 weeks old for 10 years
  • When she took out her white flag and started working on herself
  • How she stopped taking her actions to heart
  • Why she started to name her child’s superpowers
  • How she consciously parents 
  • The awakened family

 

Money:

  • When she thought money is evil and having money is greedy
  • Shifting from money brings problems to...
  • Money brings you the freedom of time
  • When and why hire a housekeeper & meal service 



Extra:

  • What was Post-call fatigue for 4 years 
  • How she felt completely disconnected from her head and body
  • Why living in anger, frustrations and irritability is a thing of the past



TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. SOGOL PAHLAVAN

  1. For 7 years, they each had their own goals and were supportive of each other. 
  2. Everything was going great until the children!  Creating a business, husband’s stuff, lost all-time for self.
  3. Write down all the qualities you want to change: controlling, angry, judged, irritable, angry, frustrated, not a listener (Her husband knew all these things for 20 years…) and figure out how you will change them!
  4. 99% of our suffering is caused by...
  5. The second half of our lives: not a rinse and repeat of the first half. It will not be hustle or grit for bigger homes and cars...we are not chasing 
  6. Children are our biggest teachers. Don't ever break your child’s spirit. 



WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

  • Do I allow myself to feel my feelings. 
  • How do you want to feel?
  • How do you want to be? 
  • Does being controlling get me what I want?
  • What can I delegate more of?
  • What within me triggered me?

 

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